Handling Stress Easier

There are two main categories when it comes to big problems, complicated and complex. Complicated problems have a repeatable solution, like fixing a car engine. It’s a lot of parts, but there is a clear solution.

On the other hand, complex problems don’t have a clear solution. One day a solution might work but the next day it doesn’t. So we have to adapt and adjust based on the feedback we get.

Stress is both a complicated and complex problem. We don’t always know where the stress is coming from. When there’s too much or too little of it, it can derail us. It can effect how we interact with others, our ability with language, and even our memory and decision making. 

One thing we can do to fight off the bad parts of stress is to create routines.

A routine can be macro, like making the bed, a hygiene sequence, eating breakfast, packing a lunch, exercising, and so on.

Or a routine can be micro, something like 1. recognizing when something frustrating has happened, 2. exhaling slowly and taking a big breath, 3. looking at the facts and circumstances, and 4. responding instead of reacting.

In short, recognize, breathe, observe, and respond.

Consider what macro and micro routines you already have that work for you and build in some new ones as needed.

It’s a lot of work to regulate under stress, especially because stress causes reactions. Having simple routines like this can make it easier to move through stressful situations with grace and composure.